Category: Relationships and Attachment
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Learning to Carry What Cannot Be Fixed: My Thoughts About Grief
Grief isn’t something to overcome. It isn’t a process to master or a task to complete. It’s a landscape we learn to live within — one that changes shape every time we touch it. I’ve walked beside people in their mourning, sat quietly with the raw, wordless ache of loss.…
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A Love Letter to All Moms: The Myth of Doing it Right
It’s 6:59 p.m. and I’m power-walking the twenty feet from my backyard office to the house. In that short stretch of grass, I shed one identity and step into another. Inside waits a one-year-old whose diaper smells like he’s been fermenting a new life form, two forever-hungry teens looking for…
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Attachment Theory and the Climate Crisis: Healing Our Relationship with Earth
How secure is your relationship with the Earth? It’s not a question we often ask ourselves, but maybe we should. The climate crisis is more than just an environmental issue—it’s a relational one. How we engage with the planet reflects our broader attachment patterns: our capacity for trust, connection, reciprocity,…
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Breaking Up with Old Patterns: How Attachment Shapes Love
Do you ever find yourself in the same frustrating relational patterns, no matter how hard you try to break free? Maybe you’ve noticed how certain dynamics seem to repeat in friendships, romantic relationships, or even with yourself. You’re not alone—and you’re not broken. These patterns often have deep roots in…
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Romancing the Self: A Love Story Without Limits
There’s a version of love we’re taught to wait for. The one that arrives from the outside. The one that finally makes everything make sense. The one that proves you’re worthy. And whether it’s wrapped in Valentine’s Day imagery or just quietly sitting in the background of your life, it…
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Love is Not a Luxury: Reclaiming Connection in a World That Profits from Loneliness
Every February, we’re bombarded with one version of love: romantic, monogamous, usually heterosexual, sealed with a diamond ring or a $6 Hallmark card. But love was never meant to be this small. Love is the way we hold each other in grief, the way we pass down recipes, the way…
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Silent Nights: Making Peace with Loneliness During the Holidays
Loneliness might not come with a bow, but for many of us, it still arrives this time of year, uninvited and heavy. You’re not alone in feeling this way. Across Canada, 1 in 8 adults reports feeling lonely “always” or “often.” Women, caregivers, and those living alone carry this weight…
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The Strange Shape of Connection: Understanding Attachment Theory
Relationships can feel… confusing. You might find yourself wanting closeness and then pulling away. Or feeling deeply affected by someone’s tone, their distance, their inconsistency. Or wondering why the same patterns keep showing up—across different people, different stages of your life. From the outside, it can look like overreacting. From…